When your YOUNG and SINGLE in a city, FRIENDS are your FAMILY

It really sucks when u think the perfect relationship that u have is not as perfect as it seems. One day…u receive an SMS or a call from the love of ur life…saying that this r’ship is not working out…and by the time u know it…ur back to being SINGLE. Relationships end all the time…it hurts like crazy and we can nurse the wounds for a long time.

If you’re the one that’s been dumped, you’re angry as hell that love appears to have been snatched away from you without just cause.

But if that relationship has ended with honesty and because things just weren’t working and they could see no sign of it having a future…well…that’s life. It happens. We can’t expect to get on with each and every person we date and see our futures in their eyes can we? And maybe we don’t come to this conclusion until we’re a bit further down the track into the relationship. There seems to be no rhyme or reason sometimes for why it happens.

Sometimes things just don’t work out the way we expect them to. There can be no foul play on either side, yet the spark is not there, that special x-factor is not a happening thing for one or the other of you…and so by being honest to yourself and with the other person, you bring it to an end. (The dumper)

Why is it…that most of the time….the dumper gets blamed for being the "evil" one?

I’ve been dumped…and it hurts real bad. At first, I thought the other person is an arsehole or a liar or that he doesn’t know what he’s missing. Did it make me feel better? NO IT DIDN’T. It took me quite some time to get over it.

I’ve been the dumper. But that doesn’t mean to say the dumper can close the door and wipe the slate clean, moving on without having to nurse the hurts of the past and try to learn from them does it? Being the dumper sucks big time. We don’t want to purposefully cause hurt to the other person….do people think the dumpers enjoy causing others pain? ok, let’s face it, some are nasty pieces of work and go out of their way to do just that…but I’d like to think that normal, sane people don’t. They try to do it as with as much respect and honesty as they can. Whichever way, it’s never easy.

Whether we’re the dumper or being dumped, we need to remember that the relationship did have love and understanding in it. That we shared some of our most inner thoughts and feelings with that person and vice versa. Every relationship is different…we act differently with each person we get into a relationship with. I’ve had different types of r’ships and have loved one man in particular beyond all reason. But I don’t spit out all my anger to everyone else when or if that love dies out on one side.

Think about it guyzz…..dun blame either one of you for ending a r’ship. You have to move on with ur life…=)

This entry was posted on Wednesday, August 9th, 2006 at 8:37 pm and is filed under Uncategorized. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can skip to the end and leave a response. Pinging is currently not allowed.